Characteristics of Low Self-Esteem or shy out students

 Johnson (2004) identified some characteristics of low self esteem or shy out students:

·         Fearful of exploring his/her real life

·         Believes that others are responsible for how he/she feels

·         Fearful of taking responsibility for his/her own emotions and actions

·         Feels and acts like a victim

·         Judgmental of self and others

·         Puts self down , shameful ,blaming, self critical ,condemning

·         Negative attitude

·         Triangulates by talking badly about one person to another

·         Rationalizes

·         Jealous/envious of others, has trouble being genuinely happy for the success of others

·         Perfectionist

·         Dependencies/addiction , compulsive, self defeating thinking and behavior

·         13.Does not like the work one does

·         Focuses on what doesn’t get done instead of what does

·         Leaves tasks and relationship unfinished and walks away without resolving issues

·         Judges self worth by comparing to others , feel inferior

·         Does not accept or give compliments

·         Is not comfortable with self , hard to be alone with self

·         Avoids new endeavors ,fears mistakes or failures

·         Irrational response ruled by emotions

·         Lack of purpose in life

·         Lack of defined goals

·         Feels adequate to handle new situations , easily unstressed

·         Feel resentful when doesn’t win

·         Vulnerable to opinions , comments and attitude of others

·         Continues  to  blame  past  experience  (or  family)  in  stead  of  dealing  with  current  self  (the  past  is  the explanation , not an excuse).